About Counselling
Counselling is a talking therapy that takes place in a safe, non judgemental environment and it provides the opportunity to discuss concerns with an independent person. Counselling can provide information or challenges but not advise you how to live your life.
Counsellors are trained to help others cope with emotional and social issues which can affect people of all ages. You may be suffering from anxiety or depression, have relationship problems, low self-esteem, have been bereaved or be dealing with other difficult events. Counselling provides you with a chance to talk about your feelings and experiences in a safe place with someone who will listen to and support you. Your counsellor will seek to understand, not judge and will work with you to make sense of your situation and make changes that improve your life.
If infertility, baby loss or if pregnancy anxiety is happening to you, you may be surprised at how hard it is to cope with your emotions, and with being surrounded by other people’s babies and families. Relatives, friends and colleagues may not be very understanding or realise how much grief or anxiety you are feeling. Not everyone will appreciate that a miscarriage is a bereavement or that undergoing fertility treatment is stressful, offering hope and anxiety in equal measure.
Why therapy works
It can help people recognise what has been lost, gives an opportunity to talk about hopes and dreams and provides the ability to grieve for any loss.
It can help to improve communication with partners, it's easy to misinterpret how each other feels /behaves which can then cause conflict.
Counselling helps people feel less isolated and can reduce the sense of being alone. Social isolation is common, avoiding gatherings, social media etc.
As a wound from a splinter will fester if not removed, negative thoughts and feelings build up if they are not let out into the open, counselling gives permission to release all pent up feelings. Facing painful emotions lessens their impact.
A new ending can be written - if you have written a story once it stands to reason that we can edit it and rewrite it if we choose. Thinking of a new ending can give a sense of control, having control over the future and be an active not passive participant in the process.